Okay, so I used to believe that you could " love someone," but not " be in love with" them. I think you are absolutely right though. After my last relationship ended, and after a ton of reflection and introspection I realized that there was no love, just duty. There was especially no like. We were no longer friends, just roommates. As one of the other commenters said, it really should not be as hard as it is! Great piece, super informative!