Love the eat, pray ,love reference! Funny. I sort of agree with both of you. Her behavior does not speak like someone who wants a full time partner, so why is she upset about not getting married? On the other hand you're right, the purely extraneous things mentioned; owning a home, good job, attractiveness, will only matter when she finds someone who she is willing to put in that emotional work with. Love is about the heart and mind, not the superficial things. Hold hands!