It seems as if Jim was not truly aware of the "true meaning" of acts of service as a love language. As you stated in your writing, he was just doing his marriage the way he did everything else. It also seems that he did not know his wife's love language, or how she needed her needs to be met in the relationship. Acts of service is my love language also. I enjoy, and get great satisfaction in doing, and giving to others, but I would definitely, if I were partnered , take into account how my partner wants me to show love towards them. There is no one size fits all when it comes to how to love. In my mind it's about really knowing your partner, and your willingness to show how much you care for them by honoring their way to a fulfilling place in that relationship. Love the piece. Thanks