I really like this concept. I have never thought about putting someone you love and care for deeply in your situation, (should I divorce or not) and making the decision based on what you see and feel. My personal experience was that I knew I needed to divorce when my mental health was in a freefall. My thoughts were traumatic, and I was exhibiting symptoms similar to sundown syndrome. Of course, I was being gaslighted so that was part of the issue. My ex said one thing that I will always take as sage advice, "once you lose your mind, or the ability to think rationally, you've lost just about everything." I knew it was time to go. Thanks for your useful method also.