"People will always "feel" marginalized." This is crux of the problem, and it's not just a "feeling" for Black folks. It has been studied, proven, and documented, that we are not given equal access to the opportunities: wealth, power, and privilege that people of non-color possess on a regular basis. Also, there has not ever been a time in history; in this country that people of non- color have not held the power and resources to subjugate any other group that they have chosen to do so to. I do agree that there is plenty of work to do to change the status quo. I though am not convinced that mankind with the thinking that they have right now will be able to do so. I appreciate your reply.

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Love and relationships should be reciprocal. Most would not normally put up with a friendship where they did most of the giving, and the other person only took. This is even more important in a romantic pairing.

Even though many commenters are saying; it's not about privilege, it is. Women have a tendency to give too much, expect too little, and then expect the man to be ready to support their needs. Selfish love is no love at all. You have the privilege to love me as I need to loved, or leave me as you found me. You don't have a right to take what you need, but leave me with unfulfilled needs that you have no intentions of supplying.

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I totally agree with your initial assessment of failed relationships. It is often because people don't really get to know their partners well. My only qualm is it seems these days that even if you date for a year, or three; people will switch up on you. That person that you grew to love and admire turns out to be someone that you can't see spending a lifetime with.

It's so much more difficult and complicated than it should be. Not sure if there is a workable solution. Good list to ponder for either sex. Thanks.

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Pearl Carpenter

Pearl Carpenter

I love music, singing, and dancing. Striving to know myself and others through exploring the psychology of mind and life.